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24
May 09

Buff Bride Tips

I’ll begin this post with a disclaimer: I do not pretend to be a workout guru; I’m pretty much as nonathletic as they get! But, I have discussed with clients about various work-outs and experimented with friends with different videos, so I have a few favorites that I wanted to share.

#1 Pick: Billy Blanks and Taebo. Billy time, double-time, roundhouse kicks, jabs… it’s all very entertaining and a killer cardio workout. Billy is also very motivational. These workouts are even more enjoyable when done with a girlfriend or two. There’s nothing better than laughing off a killer set of lunges with friends. Also, Billy and the gang’s wardrobe choices are always unexpected and amusing. Billy and his daughter Shelly are totally sassy; I recommend their buffness and fun attitudes to anyone.

S0-So Pick. So Sue Fleming, the creator of the “Buff Brides” program is everywhere in bridal fitness (you can find her on Weight Watchers and the Today Show to name a couple places). Her workout video is VERY disappointing. It was boring, cliched, and too easy for even a fitness novice like me. For example, one of the moves is a simulated bouquet toss… funny, but not in the enjoyable Billy Blanks way. Her book “Buff Brides” is actually quite good, in contrast to the video/dvd. It lists and describes how to do a variety of toning exercises. You just need free weights and a workout ball. I can speak from first-hand and second-hand experience that these exercises are effective if done regularly.


20
May 09

The Meaning of Honor Attendant

One more post before I head out of town!

Bridesmaids have a lot of responsibilities leading up to the big day. Chief among them, paying for the dress, shoes, alterations, hair, makeup, and travel expenses. Partying is the second main bridesmaid responsibility: showers, bachelorette parties, bridal luncheons, engagement parties, and the rehearsal/rehearsal dinner are prime examples. Other tasks include staying in touch with the rest of the bridal party and assisting the bride when needed with pre-wedding activities (e.g. invitation writing).

The most important part about being a bridesmaid however is simply being there for the bride. They call bridesmaids “honor attendants” for a reason. As someone who’s been a bridesmaid twice now, I can personally say it’s an honor to stand up there by your friend’s side as she pledges her love to this person… this person who you can still remember her talking giddily about all those years ago… It’s an honor to be one of the first people to see her in that gorgeous white dress and get to see her transform from beautiful woman to beautiful bride.

And besides all that, it’s fun! And, if you’re single, don’t forget to try your hardest to catch that bouquet!


19
May 09

Honeymoon Packing 101

I’m headed out of town on vacation in 5 days (but who’s counting?), so I decided to create a post about honeymoon packing. As a side note, because of this vacation, Better Together Events will also be closed and away from technology/email until June 8, 2009. All calls and emails missed during vacation will be returned on the 8th and I’ll have some new blog posts as well!

A honeymoon is supposed to be relaxing, but sometimes the packing can be stressful, especially when you don’t know where to start. We’re here to help! Here are the essentials for all sorts of destinations. This checklist was adapted from one found in Real Simple magazine.

For your carry-on bag(s)
  • Airline boarding passes and other travel tickets
  • Passports, visas (I know it seems obvious, but my husband got stuck in France once because he didn’t have his green card.)
  • Driver’s license(s)
  • Credit, ATM, auto-club, and telephone calling cards
  • Money/traveler’s checks (note: for foreign currency, just go to your local bank so you have some available cash for cabs, etc.)
  • Hotel, theater, restaurants, or other reservation confirmations
  • Photocopies of all travel documentation (e.g. passport). Also photograph your luggage contents in case of loss. Leave a copy of your itinerary with someone back home.
  • Prescription medicine (in the bottle)
  • Contraception
  • Aspirin or ibuprofen and travel-sickness pills
  • Toothbrush and toothpaste
  • Small makeup bag
  • Brush and comb
  • Camera
  • Any valuable jewelry
  • In-flight reading
  • Light sweater
  • One change of clothing, including underwear
  • Headphones for in-flight movies
  • Travel pillow and blanket
Checked Bag(s) – All Destinations
  • 2-3 pairs of shoes or sandals (stick with ones you’ve worn before and have broken in)
  • 3 pairs of light cotton socks
  • 2 pairs of shorts
  • 2 pairs of pants
  • 2-3 skirts or dresses
  • 4 tshirts or casual tops
  • 2 blouses or shirts
  • lingerie
  • enough underwear for every day, plus 2-3 extras, 2-3 bras
  • evening wrap or jacket
  • evening bag
  • swimsuit
  • shampoo and conditioner
  • soap and face cleanser
  • deodorant
  • hand and body lotion
  • lip balm
  • personal-hygiene items
  • floss
  • qtips
  • tweezers
  • nail file and clippers
  • razors and shaving cream
  • insect repellent (where appropriate)
  • sunscreen and sunglasses
  • contact-lens solution and extra contacts
  • eyeglasses
  • chargers for cell phones, ipods, and digital camera (leave home with everything fully charged)
  • electrical adapter for destinations outside the U.S.
  • extra camera batteries and memory cards
  • various sizes of re-sealable plastic bags
  • maps, guidebooks, and a translation dictionary (if needed)
  • travel alarm clock
  • addresses of family and friends for postcards
  • comfortable daypack for carrying guidebooks, snacks, and essentials
  • travel umbrella and raincoat
  • travel medical kit (band-aids, antacids, antihistamines, diarrhea medicine, antibacterial cream)
  • foldable, lightweight tote for bringing home souvenirs
Add-ons for Beach Honeymoon
  • paperbacks
  • aloe vera gel or after-sun cream
  • beach bag
  • 2nd swimsuit and cover-up
  • flip-flops
Skiing Honeymoon Add-ons
  • waterproof ski pants and jacket or snowsuit
  • turtlenecks
  • heavy sweaters
  • long underwear
  • gloves or mittens
  • warm hat or headband
  • neck warmer or scarf
  • goggles
  • skis, poles, and boots
  • waterproof socks
  • hand and foot warmers
  • ski lock
  • ski bag
Safari and Sightseeing honeymoon add-ons
  • comfortable walking shoes or hiking boots
  • small compass
  • mosquito netting (if needed)
  • binoculars
  • clothing in natural colors (avoid bright and white clothing, which can distract wildlife)
  • safari or sun hat
  • wildlife guides

Other useful tips?
- Remember to consider checked baggage requirements. With the airline industry in a bit of economic distress, they are adding new fees and baggage restrictions all the time.
- Put shampoo and other bottles that could potentially leak in ziploc bags to prevent them from spilling all over your clothes.
- Don’t overpack, but make sure you have good clothing options! Isn’t that the ultimate packing challenge?


11
May 09

Active Honeymoons Done Right

I was recently asked to blog about active honeymoons, so here it is!

The first place that comes to mind is Costa Rica. I’ve known a few brides who’ve honeymooned there, and it epitomizes an active honeymoon to a T. Touring volcanoes, hot springs, natural canopies, banana plantations, and waterfall gardens, Costa Rica has it all, including gorgeous beaches for the days you are feeling less adventurous. Costa Rica is also relatively affordable compared to the more long-distance adventure locations, like Tahiti and Fiji, and it offers a variety of accommodation options, ranging from resorts to more rustic, mountain bungalow settings.

If you’re feeling very adventurous, try an African Safari, on my “must do sometime in life” list.
White-water rafting, elephant-back safaris, canoeing, game viewing and scenic flights will keep the pulse racing throughout your entire trip. If those aren’t enoough, add shark diving, whale watching, and sailing to the list. Remember that an African safari really requires at least two weeks, if not more, as it takes awhile to get there, and, come on, once you’re in Africa, you mind as well take your time! Where to stay? Check out this incredible hotel in Cape Town, the Twelve Apostles.

Other active honeymoon locations? Mexico, Belize, Australia, and New Zealand.

When planning your active honeymoon, it’s even more important to be organized than with a beach vacation. Think about visiting a travel agent, buy tickets and confirm hotels early, and start packing weeks before your trip – you’ll need much more than a bathing suit and some shorts!


7
Apr 09

Signature Cocktail, Please!

One idea that has become very popular at weddings and special events of all kinds is a signature cocktail. It’s a great way of adding a personal detail in an unlikely place like the bar. It is also an unexpected place to find color, providing an additional decor element to your overal color scheme.

Love champagne and the color peach? How about a bellini?

Or maybe you’re planning a wedding by the sea with a blue color scheme. A blue martini would be perfect. If pink is one of your colors, you’ll be faced with a touch decision; there are so many pink cocktails that an entire book is devoted to them. Some of my favorites include a vodka/pink lemonade cocktail and a Pink Sunrise cocktail courtesy of Rachel Ray (a delicious combo of Campari liqueur, red grapefruit juice, and champagne).

Green event? Try a mojito:

Sangria is a crowd pleaser for red palettes.

A signature drink is not a must-have, but it certainly adds some sassiness to the cocktail hour! For more ideas on fun drinks, check out The Food Network’s website.


2
Apr 09

The Inside Scoop on Honeymoon Registries

One of my clients is thinking about setting up a honeymoon registry in addition to the standard department store registry options. I got busy researching the ins and outs of such a set-up and gathered a lot of important information.

The main thing to remember when establishing a honeymoon registry is to read the fine print and do your research before choosing a company. Nearly all major honeymoon registry companies charge some sort of fee, ranging from a flat fee of $150 to 8-10% of every contribution gift.

Honeymoon registry specialists, such as The Big Day, HoneyLuna, Distinctive Honeymoons, Traveler’s Joy and The Honeymoon now compete with programs from lodging chains, like the Marriott, Starwood and Sandals. The one advantage with the former group is that couples can choose specific aspects of their trip, like snorkeling, massages, a private beach, for gift-givers to choose from. The downside to these options is that oftentimes the fine print does not offer refunds to the couple if they decide to sleep through the snorkeling trip. The lodging chains tend to me more flexible with the credit, but gift-givers are usually limited to contributing to meals, tours, and accommodations.

Another big difference between a traditional registry and a honeymoon registry is that ultimately it is the couple’s responsibility to foot the bill. In short, the couple pays for their trip in advance and hopes that guests chip in with gifts along the way. Still, when it comes to splurges like massages, the couple does not usually have to pay in advance; they can see if people purchase some big trip splurges for them before committing to pricier vacation experiences. The honeymoon agency usually mails the couple a check of gifts received before the wedding. Chain companies typically issue a gift card or company credit.

Also, remember to watch expiration dates. Starwood’s Honey Money expires after only two years, while the Marriott’s never expires.

Etiquette-wise, it is perfectly fine to register for a honeymoon. Just make sure you have your family and friends spread the word for you. The major downside are the service fees, of course. The best site I found in my opinion is called Honeymoon Wishes, a company based out of CA: http://ytb.honeymoonwishes.com/ What’s nice with this program is that it is totally free to set-up and the couple can choose to have the 7% automatically deducted from a $50 gift, rather than having the gift-giver automatically have to add-on 7% to their intended gift.

Planning a honeymoon takes time and a lot of research. Better Together Events can help! For an affordable fee, we can do all the leg-work for you, so you can just sit back and dream about your ultimate honeymoon experience, whatever it might be. For me, famous New Orleans beignets, hot strong coffee, and my new husband was my idea of a perfect morning!


21
Mar 09

Planning a Multifaith Wedding

Multifaith, or interfaith as they are often described, weddings have a bad reputation of being very tricky and challenging to plan. Certainly, there are challenging aspects, but with a good attitude and open paths of communication your multifaith wedding can be one of the most memorable and touching that guests have ever attended.

One of the most difficult planning aspects of a multifaith ceremony is securing clergy people who are willing to marry you. For most Jewish brides and grooms, Reform Rabbis will be your only option, and many of them will not marry you with a clergy person of another denomination. Similarly, Catholic priests have a number of rules that could prevent them from marrying a multifaith couple. However, there are priests, rabbis, and ministers out there that will be open and very supportive to the idea. In fact, since these clergy people are far and few between, they tend to go the extra mile and really get to know you, which contributes to an even more intimate ceremony. You just need the perseverance or the help of a knowledgeable wedding planner to find them.

                                                                     The struggle to find clergy and the detailed conversations that follow after you find them can actually be extremely beneficial to the bride and groom. For one, they force the couple to discuss and answer some tough questions, which have probably already come up to some extent. When you have more than one person marrying you, this means twice the premarital counseling and twice the excuse to delve into those sensitive subjects.These are really the only two challenging aspects of the process. The actual planning of the ceremony and the combining of two traditions can be very fun and personal. In short, multifaith weddings bring out the best of both worlds. You are weaving together the thread of two traditions that is representative of who you are as a couple.


20
Mar 09

First Dance Faves

One of my dear friends getting married this May has always known what she wanted her first dance to be. For those of you less sure, here’s a helping hand with the brainstorming. In no particular order of course…

Dream a Little Dream of Me by Louis Armstrong and Ella Fitzgerald

The same covered by the Mamas & the Papas (Mama Cass had some voice…)
It Had to Be You by Frank Sinatra (also covered so well by Harry Connick Jr. for one of my favorite flicks: When Harry Met Sally).
Moon River by Audrey Hepburn
I Can’t Help Falling in Love with You by Elvis (Booted from my personal top choice because my husband refused to slow dance to Elvis.)
The Luckiest by Ben Folds (When my sister got married, I teased her mercilessly about choosing a wedding song that mentions death, but she convinced me that it’s the real deal.)
The Best is Yet to Come covered by Stacey Kent
Crazy Love by Van Morrison
When You Say Nothing At All covered by Alison Kraus
What a Difference a Day Makes by Dinah Washington (Interestingly, this song was placed perfectly in the film Run Lola Run.)
Cheek to Cheek by Ella Fitzgerald and Louis Armstrong
In Your Eyes by Peter Gabriel (Just make sure it doesn’t make you think that you’re dancing with John Cusack.)
Nobody Knows Me by Lyle Lovett (I know, you’re wondering what Julie Roberts’ ex-husband is doing on the list, but this is a really sweet song.)
Songbird covered by Eva Cassidy
Feels Like Home by Chantel Kreviazuk
La Vie en Rose by Louis Armstrong
Unforgettable by Nat King Cole
Wonderful Tonight by Eric Clapton
Someone Like You by Van Morrison
The Nearness of You covered by Norah Jones
I’ll Be There by Sade
Bless the Broken Road by Rascall Flatts or by/with Carrie Underwood
At Last by Etta James (Great song, but did the Obama’s have to dance to the same song at every single ball?)
Everything I Do by Bryan Adams (I put this down only for my mother, who made us listen to this song repeatedly during car rides to and from school.)
Grow Old with Me by John Lennon
Better Together by Jack Johnson

Whatever you choose, have fun with the first dance! It’s a special moment, so enjoy it!


13
Mar 09

Merci Beaucoup!

One of my clients recently asked my advice about thank you notes. Since, like most event planners, I have a borderline unhealthy relationship with stationary and spent way too many hours agonizing over the font of my website content, I decided to tackle this question as my first blog entry.

To celebrate your engagement and your wedding, your friends and family will shower you with their good wishes and blessings. They’ll give you gifts, throw parties in your honor, and assist you with all the things leading up to the big day. Thank you notes are a must to show your appreciation; it is important that they be personal and from the heart. Thank you notes are also important because they are the last item loved ones receive from you post-wedding, so it is your last chance to formally thank them with a personal touch.

To really give them a unique feeling, think about having custom cards printed with a monogram of some kind – perhaps the first initial of your last name, the monogram of you and your fiance, or your two first names together. Check out these personalized thank you notes from Silhouette Blue on Etsy.com. The cards have sweet designs are are perfect for sending out meaningful thank yous. This one in particular caught my eye and reminded me of the children’s book The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein.


The cards come in all sorts of colored cardstock and inks as well to coordinate with your overall theme.

Keep in mind these handy tips as you start to receive gifts and think about drafting thank you notes.

  • No matter what, poor handwriting and all, you must write a handwritten note. The effort speaks volumes to your appreciation of the gift. Make sure you mention the particular gift and why you are appreciative of it.
  • I know Emily Post says you have a year to write a thank you note, but try to send them out as soon as possible, ideally within 3 weeks of receiving your gift.
  • Have an Excel Spreadsheet of all your wedding guests. Whenever you receive a gift, add it to the spreadsheet along with the date the thank you note was completed. Every month, schedule an evening of thank you note writing. Feel free to drink wine and thank at the same time!
  • Ignore the bridal magazines and do not take your thank you notes with you on your honeymoon. 1) You won’t write them. 2) You will have more time and energy to focus on them when you get back home. Also, remember you can always hire a wedding planning service like mine to help you with addressing the envelopes so that you can focus your precious time on penning the thanks!

Happy Thanking and because the French always say it better, “Merci!”